Gold Star Mother's Day 2006... / Nadia McCaffrey (Mom)
Gold Star Mother's Day 2006...Did I actually give birth 36 years ago? My mind is wondering over sixty one years of my life, what does “Mother's Day” signify anymore?? , I am trying desperately to rescue the vague meaning left of two words.. Or is it that the meaning is so strongly anchored within me, that, I am not sure how to deal with the disappearance of the dearest person in my life. I better get use to not getting a sweet card and flower, and phone calls ever again saying Happy “Mother’s Day” MOM, I love you, your son, Patrick. For so many years, I took all messages of love for granted, what a fool I was!Why do I wish today, that I had kept and saved it all? I never doubted that Patrick was my guardian and would watch over me until I died, as I watched over him while he was a baby, a child. What am I supposed to do next without him, without his wisdom, his compassion without his love, without his gentle strength, without his voice saying " I love you Mom you have always been here for me as I will be there for you..." Patrick’s birthday is almost there: May 26. For the past two years, I have been hiding to myself, the fact that Patrick was NEVER coming home.I did not say that I had accepted it, nor realized it. Patrick would have been 36 years old this year. I fully realize that this huge pain will never go anywhere, or fade away in the back round of my consciousness, no, this pain will be with me until my last day on earth. Perhaps I will learn how to function with it, or perhaps not… What I am experiencing right now is uncertainty. For the first time in three years, or the beginning of the war, and since Patrick’s murder in Iraq, I have doubts. My faith, up until a month ago, was so strong and powerful, that I believed that anything could be accomplished or changed. I thought that by now, the Americans people would have awakened and stopped the corruption, the lies, the betrayal, the destruction and the killing of our country and its citizens, boy was I wrong!!How long is it going to take? Speaking across country non-stop for two years, I know that I have touched many people’s soul; many people have changed their life because of Patrick’s death… Patrick left on my shoulders, the burden to be part of the actions that will stop the war. He was very disillusioned with the whole picture. He felt betrayed as a Patriot, Patrick was not a fool, He knew the truth. However, he followed his heart after the blast of September eleven, and enlisted joining the National Guards (not the International Guards!), he wanted to help out his country and people, he wanted to serve within the country, not over seas illegally invading a country that had nothing to do with 9/11. How much more time is it going to take to glance at a peaceful world?Nadia McCaffrey, Gold Star Mother
Patrick 1 of a kind, none 2 match, none 2 find like U! / DX no (Dear Friend )
Patrick 1 of a kind, none 2 match, none 2 find like U! Patrick I know U can hear us, I know U R with us! Patrick, Patrick, Patrick, we thought U'd never leave us! So special, Mister Washington Redskins man 4ever! We'll NEVER 4get-cha! Patrick, Patrick, Patrick We all love U so much, we won't ever 4get UR kind words and UR touch! Touch of kindness, touch of love, Patrick, Patrick, Patrick 1 of a kind!
The world is a different place now that he is no longer in it! / Lea no (Long time Friend ) I knew Patrick very well. Special, cannot possible cover the kind of person he was. I will miss him forever. knew Patrick very well. Special cannot possible cover the kind of person he was. I will miss him forever. The world is a different place now that he is no longer in it!
"I gazed at him, and all of myself seemed to drawn away; my inner being melted, and I felt utterly lost, deserted, abandoned....my friend! ...and all the truth rushed in on me, and I the purest form of anguish."
High school Friend / None X (Friend) My heart goes out to Sergeant Patrick McCaffrey's friends and family. Although we were not close, I did have a few classes with him in high school. I am terribly sorry that his family is having to experience this tragic, and great loss.
Patrick's Quotes / Nadia Michitch (Mom) Patrick's Quotes ..."I know that you saw the pictures of the Abu Graib abuse-episode with the prisoners and few bad US soldiers....believe me, Mom, many of us are ashamed of them, and they don't deserve to wear our colors." Sgt Patrick Ryan McCaffrey
Tracy's five fallen soldiers / Nadia McCaffrey (Mom) Tracy's five fallen soldiers / Nadia McCaffrey (Mother)
Lila Lipscomb, Mother of Sgt. Pedersen, killed 4/3/2003 of Flint, Michigan / Lila Lipscomb (Gold Star Mom ) Patrick, I know you are with my son Michael in Heaven just as I am with your mother here on Earth. I am so thankful to have her in my life, yet I hate that our hearts had to be bonded together in the death of our son's. I pray you and Michael continue to hold us in your arms as we continue on with the journies here. Nadia, hugs and love I send arcoss the country to you my friend. I am so proud of you and will always be here for you! In the struggle for Peace!" Lila Lipscomb, Mother of Sgt. Pedersen, killed 4/3/2003 of Flint, Michigan
You all are in my prayers. / Judy D (None)
May I express my gratitude for the price your son and family have paid for the cause of freedom. My heart aches for you and your town and the losses you must endure as a community and as individuals. God bless you all and the brave young men you have lost will not be forgotton. You all are in my prayers.
Judy D (Anderson, IN )
To live in the hearts of those you leave behind is never to die" / Tom Gugliuzza-Smith (None)
My heartfelt sympathy to the McCaffrey family in the loss of Patrick. I did not know Patrick, but my heart is broken and I am sadden for your loss of such a fine young man and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. Patrick you will not be forgotten. I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart. Love and Peace Tom
To live in the hearts of those you leave behind is never to die" ~Robert Orr~
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith (Springfield, VA ) email@example.com
Your anniversary: 19 months today / Nadia McCaffrey (Mom)
Happy memories on St Patrick's Day / Silvia McCaffrey (His Wife ) With all my heart and love: Happy St Patrick's Day Baby! I know that you are not physically here with us, but you certainly are in Spirit. You are always and forever in our heart and mind. With all my love Pumpkin. From your wife. Silvia McCaffrey
I miss him / Christopher Ulen (Friend/soldier) I think about him everyday and as much as I try to get that day out of my head I can't. I did everything in my power to keep him alive but I couldn't. I miss him.
Blessings to you always / Dina M (Mom's Friend )
When I read these quotes about kindness, I thought about you and the kindnesses that you may or may not know that you have extended to me. What they were does not matter, the fact that you touched my life with your kindness is what matters most to me. They have touched my heart and left a beautiful sweet light that lives on. Thank You for being a part of me, my life, and who I am becoming. Kindness is the way we cherish others and the way to living a happy life. Blessings to you always.
With Love to YOU, Dina
"The effects of kindness are not always seen immediately. Sometimes it takes years until your kindness will pay off. Sometimes you never see the fruits of your labors, but they are there, deep inside of the soul of the one you touched and inside of you." ~ Dan Kelly ~
"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they will not be here tomorrow. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again." ~Og Mandino, 1923-1996 (Adapted)
"When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am older, I admire kind people."
Rabbi Abraham Heschel, 1907-1972 Jewish Theologian and Social Activist
I am so touched & impressed by your story... / Kelly Penney (Friend)
I am so touched & impressed by your story... the story of your son. He represents the all that is great, good, & decent about America.
So much more a man than those posing as 'pious Americans' & sent him to that place. So much more than those that would deny him his full hero's return home.
God Bless you for your own bravery. Most of all- God Bless as you journey forth without Patrick.
I too served my country. Though not in a time of declared war. Perhaps there is always a sense of survivors' guilt to those of us that've thusly served. This, particularly in the case of Patrick, makes his passing all the more poignant. He gave so much to all around him- continually. One could only hope to be 1/10th so generous daily here Stateside." Kelly Penney of Palestine, Ohio
"Mr. & Mrs. McCaffrey, as I have followed this presidential election process, I have learned so much more
A Soldiers story / JAMES PECORARO (Fellow Soldier )
"This poem was forwarded to me and I am doing as it requested give my thanks and credit due to those who have made the ultimate sacrifice for their country and family. MY SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO THE McCAFFREY FAMILY. HE WILL ALWAYS BE MISSED.
A Soldiers story Subject: Twas The Night Before ChristmasTwas the night before Christmas, all is secure. Twas the night before Christmas, HE LIVED ALL ALONE, IN A ONE BEDROOM HOUSE MADE OF PLASTER AND STONE. I HAD COME DOWN THE CHIMNEY WITH PRESENTS TO GIVE, AND TO SEE JUST WHO IN THIS HOME DID LIVE. I LOOKED ALL ABOUT, A STRANGE SIGHT I DID SEE, NO TINSEL,NO PRESENTS, NOT EVEN A TREE. NO STOCKING BY MANTLE, JUST BOOTS FILLED WITH SAND, AND ON THE WALL PICTURES OF FAR DISTANT LANDS. WITH MEDALS AND BADGES, AWARD OF ALL KINDS, A SOBERING THOUGHT CAME TO MY MIND. FOR THIS HOUSE WAS DIFFERENT SO DARK AND SO DREARY, THE HOME OF A SOLDIER, NOW I COULD SEE CLEARLY. THE SOLDIER LAY SLEEPING, SILENT, ALONE, CURLED UP ON THE FLOOR IN THIS ONE BEDROOM HOME. THE FACE WAS SO GENTLE, THE ROOM IN SUCH DISORDER, NOT HOW I PICTURED A UNITED STATES SOLDIER. WAS THIS THE HERO OF WHOM I JUST READ: CURLED UP ON A PONCHO, THE FLOOR FOR A BED? I REALIZED THE FAMILIES THAT I SAW THIS NIGHT, OWED THEIR LIVES TO THESE SOLDIERS WHO WERE WILLING TO FIGHT. SOON ROUND THE WORLD, THE CHILDREN WOULD PLAY, AND GROWNUPS WOULD CELEBRATE A BRIGHT CHRISTMAS DAY. THEY ALL ENJOYED FREEDOM EACH MONTH OF THE YEAR, BECAUSE OF THE SOLDIERS, LIKE THE ONE LYING HERE. I COULDNT HELP WONDER HOW MANY LAY ALONE, ON A COLD CHRISTMAS EVE IN A LAND FAR FROM HOME. THE VERY THOUGHT BROUGHT A TEAR TO MY EYE, I DROPPED TO MY KNEES AND STARTED TO CRY. THE SOLDIER AWAKENED AND I HEARD A ROUGH VOICE, "SANTA DONT CRY, THIS LIFE IS MY CHOICE; I FIGHT FOR FREEDOM, I DONT ASK FOR MORE, MY LIFE IS MY GOD, MY COUNTRY, MY CORPS". THE SOLDIER ROLLED OVER AND SOON DRIFTED TO SLEEP, I COULDNT CONTROL IT, I CONTINUED TO WEEP. I KEPT WATCH FOR HOURS, SO SILENT AND STILL, AND WE BOTH SHIVERED FROM THE COLD EVENINGS CHILL. I DIDNT WANT TO LEAVE ON THAT COLD, DARK NIGHT, THIS GUARDIAN OF HONOR SO WILLING TO FIGHT. THEN THE SOLDIER ROLLED OVER, WITH A VOICE SOFT AND PURE, WHISPERED, "CARRY ON SANTA, ITS CHRISTMAS DAY, ALL IS SECURE". ONE LOOK AT MY WATCH, AND I KNEW HE WAS RIGHT. "MERRY CHRISTMAS MY FRIEND AND TO ALL A GOOD NIGHT".
THIS POEM WAS WRITTEN BY A MARINE STATIONED IN OKINAWA, JAPAN. CHRISTMAS WILL BE COMING SOON AND SOME CREDIT IS DUE TO OUR U.S. SERVICEMEN AND WOMEN FOR BEING ABLE TO CELEBRATE THESE FESTIVITIES. LETS TRY IN THIS SMALL WAY TO PAY A TINY BIT OF WHAT WE OWE. MAKE PEOPLE STOP AND THINK OF OUR HEROS, LIVING AND DEAD WHO SACRIFICED THEMSELVES FOR US.
SFC JAMES PECORARO" MARIE L. MARIEof SANTA CRUZ, CA USA
Nadia I met yo a few years ago at JFK University / Heidi Wexler (Mom's Friend )
"Nadia I met yo a few years ago at JFK University. You were giving a talk about Near Death Experiences and I brought a friend with me as well. I thought that I may have seen you a on TV some months ago, and I know it was you I saw this evening being interviewed by Ethan Harp. I was touched by your lifes work and story at JFK and now after hearing what happened with your son. It is no wonder that it is you, having been through this life of yours. Such strength you have..you have given so much. You are truly blessed, as you have said and demonstrated. I would love to cross paths with you again and learn from you and with you. I work with older adults with dementia here in San Francisco. I wanted you to know that it was a magical moment to know that you touched many this evening, and my heart goes out to you and your family." Heidi Wexler of Oakland, CA
I was in Basic Training and AIT with Patrick / Christopher Rusinko (Friend) I was in Basic Training and AIT with Patrick. He was a good soldier, a good leader, and a good friend. He will be dearly missed. I just found out about his passing recently, and it hit me really hard. I couldn't sleep right for a week, and still can't from time to time. I'm stationed in Iraq at the moment, and was told by another soldier who was in training with us. He had the same reaction when he found out. Patrick has had a lasting impact on our lives, and we'll never forget him. We thank him for the life he lived." SPC Christopher Rusinko of Tallil Airbase, Iraq
To the family of Sergeant Patrick Ryan McCaffrey / Friend XXX (Friend)
"To the family of Sergeant Patrick Ryan McCaffrey, after seing the show on Good Morning America, I did a search on google. I am so sorry to hear about his death. Thank you for the services that you and your son have given this country and your fellow human beings. I hope that your vast experience in this field helps you to cope with his loss. Again, very sorry and thank you for all the assistance you and your family have provided others."
"Patrick, Nadia, PJ and Janessa.... / Aurora Ortiz (Friend)
"Patrick, Nadia, PJ and Janessa....
I met and immediately befriended Patrick in 1992 or 93 through his ex-wife. She was absolutely enamored by him for obvious reasons. Through their relationship and it's eventual demise he and I remained friends, even with relatively large breaks in time between our conversations. The day he told me the joined the National Guard was around the time we were having the Anthrax scares, no one, least of all me, believed he would be called to serve. He said it best when he told me "I did it in case [anyone] tries to invade us again." Always the hero. Proud of his weightlifting, in love with his children and always a smile in his voice. The last conversation we had I'll treasure forever, but wish I could change just enough to make it so I could see him just once more. He told me about being deployed about a month prior so this call was about the going away party he was having. He asked me to go so I could meet his new wife and little girl (both of our kids are close in age, his ex-wife in fact watched my daughter for a while even) I told him I couldn't make it but I would certainly love to throw him a welcome-home party, he said that I had better and that we would definitely keep in touch while he was there. E-mails were sporadic and I understood without question. I found out about his passing on the news and was truly devastated. I mourn my friend often, and remember his smile and laugh above all (and definitely will never forget his incessant preaching on the benefits of a good work-out at the gym!!). He will always be in my thoughts and prayers and will be remembered as my friend and a true hero. I'll be waiting to see your smile and hear your laugh, until you open up those gates for me. God Bless you Pat, Nadia and family.
Aurora firstname.lastname@example.org" Aurora (Goss) Ortiz of San Jose, CA